Slice of Life is inspired by the desire and challenge of living our lives in the moment. Days go by, weeks go by, years... but we can still choose over and over again to look at our own lives in small installments. These installments (or slices of life) can be walks taken in the hills, naps or a glass of Rioja. For me, what makes my slices super meaningful is being able to share with others the moments of my day with dogs in play, training or napping where we're all piled up on the bed.

My slices of life are full of events and experiences that are meaningful to me. As a former professional photographer, I still “see” so many pictures (or vignettes) as I interact with my dogs and the world around me on a daily basis. Most of the time I am not capturing these moments with a camera anymore. Instead, I am just showing up... I must say, that I do miss having a register of events outside of my head so that at my leisure I can relish a past moment as I am transported by a visual or written recollection of days gone by.

With the immediacy of all things digital, perhaps I can have my cake and eat it too. I can continue to do my work as a dog trainer and also register here and there moments of living a life in the company of dogs. I hope you will occasionally take a peek, and that my slices of life transport you in a glee of YOUR own!

Showing posts with label arousal inducing behaviors. Show all posts
Showing posts with label arousal inducing behaviors. Show all posts

Monday, September 23, 2013

Choose Your Battles

I love the days when I take the dogs to Santa Fe for leashed walks. The three of us are still working the kinks of ongoing loose leash walking but I am encouraged because both Deuce and Rio are improving with every outing. This morning was remarkably cool and with a lingering fragrance of rain when we set-off  for our morning walk.

Rio has this little annoying thing that she does pretty much every time I release her from the car: She gets off the back of the car as if she was a bronco coming out the gate. She is so “exuberant” in her enthusiasm that I have to make sure I park in an area away from traffic so that as she leaps and rotates I can still maintain control over her and Deuce - who thank god has learned some better manners!

This morning Rioja surprised me. I was expecting her to get out of the car in her usual manner but instead, she remained collected. She expressed her joy by jumping enthusiastically out of the car yet her pulling at the leash was minimum.

This got me thinking about the importance of choosing our battles with our dog’s and the behaviors that we want to have them change.

Rioja exiting the car as I described above is not on my top 10 list of favorite behaviors but I realized that for the moment - until she matures a bit more - I was going to cut her a break and allow her to be exuberant… as long as she waits laying down inside the car for me to leash her and release her. This part she does great so why not cut her some slack for the time being on her exuberant exit?

Now, there are some other behaviors that I do not want Rioja to continue practicing so I am not cutting her much slack on these. Here is an example:

A vast majority of dogs love to sit by a window and see the world pass them by. For most dogs that live in residential areas their day might be peppered with people walking alone, people walking with their dogs (this option is one of the most exciting ones) and with the occasional sighting of a cat perhaps.

For my dogs it is just very few passers-by, mainly the neighbors who walk their dogs up on the ridge or the occasional handy-person who both my dogs think are here to see them and I haven’t had the heart to tell them this is not so.

Now, my take on dogs sitting by a window that faces the outdoors is that for the most part it is not a good idea. Owners tell me they like to have their dog looking out the window so that they have something to do when they are left alone. But the problem is, that most dogs get way stimulated (over–aroused) because they are constantly seeing people, dogs and the like that they cannot access and that in itself frustrates dogs (this is called barrier frustration). Rioja loves to lay by the see-all window. Sometimes she'll lie there and snooze. Sometimes she barks wanting out to say "hi" to the contractor of the week. Now, if I allow Rioja to bark without re-directing her at the sight of people, just like my client’s dogs I will most likely end with a dog that gets too aroused when seeing people. And that is a slippery slope.

Arousal is an autonomic response of the nervous system. As such is not something a dog can regulate on its own. The best analogy I can think of (different bodily processes but kind of the same result) is a small child who has consumed lots of sugar  - now try putting that kid to bed or to have him play quietly, not an easy task for either party!

Arousal, of course, is part of everyday living. However, when our dogs are permitted to engage in arousal inducing behaviors without some sort of an intervention to calm down, it is possible to end up with a dog that has difficulty responding appropriately when aroused. To be clear, arousal as stated cannot be regulated by the dog. The dog cannot feel more or less aroused at will. However, what our
dogs can learn is to respond appropriately when aroused. Similarly to a person who suffers from road-rage, most likely this person will always feel [some] rage when in a similar situation but that person can learn to engage in a less desirable behaviors such as singing along with the radio or breathing deeply versus flipping someone off when driving. Instead of letting Rioja bark past her there is someone on the property… Alert! Alert! is that I call her to the kitchen and I ask her to lay on her bed. I treat her occasionally, as she remains laying down.


If she peels away from the bed to go bark again at the window, I call her back and do the same thing again. This back-and-forth gives Rioja an opportunity to do her “job” of alerting me when someone is coming in through the gate but most importantly, it gives her an opportunity to calm down, take a sigh and just relax.

I have noticed that the more we practice this protocol and the more relaxed I become about asking her to come lay on her bed the easier it has been for Rioja to disengage from the post at the window and come lay down on her bed.